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The Cookie Thief, A Poem by Valerie Cox
The Cookie Thief
by Valerie Cox
A woman was waiting at an airport one night, with several long hours before her flight. She hunted for a book in the airport shops, bought a bag of cookies and found a place to drop.
She was engrossed in her book but happened to see, that the man sitting beside her, as bold as could be. . .grabbed a cookie or two from the bag in between, which she tried to ignore to avoid a scene.
So she munched the cookies and watched the clock, as the gutsy cookie thief diminished her stock. She was getting more irritated as the minutes ticked by, thinking, “If I wasn’t so nice, I would blacken his eye.”
With each cookie she took, he took one too, when only one was left, she wondered what he would do. With a smile on his face, and a nervous laugh, he took the last cookie and broke it in half.
He offered her half, as he ate the other, she snatched it from him and thought… oooh, brother. This guy has some nerve and he’s also rude, why he didn’t even show any gratitude!
She had never known when she had been so galled, and sighed with relief when her flight was called. She gathered her belongings and headed to the gate, refusing to look back at the thieving ingrate.
She boarded the plane, and sank in her seat, then she sought her book, which was almost complete. As she reached in her baggage, she gasped with surprise, there was her bag of cookies, in front of her eyes.
If mine are here, she moaned in despair, the others were his, and he tried to share. Too late to apologize, she realized with grief, that she was the rude one, the ingrate, the thief.
Criminal Justice Cafe Podcast: Jacqueline Polverari Interviews Bill Livolsi, Ep. 5
In this episode, Jacquie has a discussion with Bill Livolsi, who was released from a Federal prison camp a year ago due to Covid-19 protocols.
Jacquie and Bill are both members of our White Collar Support Group that meets online on Zoom on Monday evenings.
Criminal Justice Cafe: Transparent conversations about controversial subjects within the Criminal Justice System… from the inside out.
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Jacqueline Polverari:
Jacqueline Polverari, MBA, MSW is the founder and Executive Director of Evolution Reentry Services, focusing on the needs of women who have been impacted by the Criminal Justice System.
Jacqueline has over 25 years’ experience as a professional with proven successes in business leadership, mentoring and therapeutic environments. Her experience working with trauma culminated after spending almost a year in Danbury Federal Prison Camp for Women and observing the trauma women experience related to being incarcerated. She has since dedicated herself to Criminal Justice Reform and Reentry services with a special focus on trauma and reentry services for women relating to incarceration. Jacqueline is an active member of the National Association of Social Workers, JustLeadershipUSA and #Cut50 and speaks at conferences and symposiums throughout the country. She most recently designed and hosted the first retreat for women convicted of a white-collar crime in the country in October 2019. Jacqueline is working diligently to continue her education and has returned to school to obtain her Doctoral Degree in Social Work with a concentration in Criminal Justice.
For more information or to schedule a speaking engagement you can reach Jacqueline Polverari: evolutionreentry.com, [email protected].
Video: White Collar Support Group 250th Meeting Reflections: Progressive Priests
Our White Collar Support Group meets online on Zoom on Monday evenings. We will celebrate our 250th weekly meeting on Monday, March 29, 2021, 7 pm ET, 4 pm PT; all Fellow Travelers are invited.
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I am so grateful the good Priests of the Progressive Catholic Church International for their congratulations, prayers and blessings in celebration of the 250th meeting of our White Collar Support Group. – Jeff
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White Collar Week Podcast: An Evening with Our White Collar Support Group. The support group meeting on this podcast is different than most, because all of the 16 group members appearing have agreed to share their names, faces and very personal stories in an effort to reach out to individuals and families suffering in silence. All on the podcast are post-sentencing or back from prison. Watch on YouTube, Listen on Spotify, Apple Podcasts and SoundCloud, link here.
White Collar Support Group 250th Meeting Reflections: Fellow Traveler Michael Kimelman, New York
Mike Kimelman is a member of our White Collar Support Group that meets online on Zoom on Monday even Whittemoreings. We will celebrate our 250th weekly meeting on Monday, March 29, 2021, 7 pm ET, 4 pm PT; all Fellow Travelers are invited.
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Whether struggling with the most difficult crucible many of us will ever face before going inside, or coming home and facing the intense personal and financial difficulties of re-entry, Jeff has been a staunch ally and informational godsend for hundreds if not thousands of men and women over the past decade. He has created a caring, open fellowship to help serve others going through the same trials and tribulations that many like myself had to face alone and afraid many years ago when Jeff’s mission hadn’t yet come into existence.
Congratulations on 250 and here’s to another decade of hope, love, optimism and support! – Michael Kimelman, New York
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White Collar Week Podcast: An Evening with Our White Collar Support Group. The support group meeting on this podcast is different than most, because all of the 16 group members appearing have agreed to share their names, faces and very personal stories in an effort to reach out to individuals and families suffering in silence. All on the podcast are post-sentencing or back from prison. Watch on YouTube, Listen on Spotify, Apple Podcasts and SoundCloud, link here.
White Collar Support Group 250th Meeting Reflections: Fellow Traveler James Whittemore, Maine
Jamie Whittemore is a member of our White Collar Support Group that meets online on Zoom on Monday even Whittemoreings. We will celebrate our 250th weekly meeting on Monday, March 29, 2021, 7 pm ET, 4 pm PT; all Fellow Travelers are invited.
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In 2018 I was a practicing attorney, and was indicted under state law for taking money from my clients’ trust account, for my own use. My practice was closed down abruptly. It took several months for my lawyer to reach a settlement with the Attorney General’s office, during which time I became aware of Jeff Grant and the group that he has brought together. I joined the zoom conferences on Monday evenings, meeting a knowledgeable band of white collar professionals either facing incarceration or else released from it after serving time. I found myself welcomed, immediately and unconditionally, with an understanding obviously based on a sense of shared experience and also with optimism about what lay ahead for me. I learned much about the prison experience, information about practical details as well as about the attitudes and mind-sets that would help me adapt to prison conditions when the time came to enter the system.
I went into incarceration in April of 2019. By that time the regular weekly meetings with people I had come to see as friends, had primed me to make a positive experience out of prison. There were radical changes ahead of course, but there was nothing I could not manage, and in fact nothing I could not turn to advantage, as an opportunity for personal and spiritual growth.
Upon release after fourteen months, into a closely supervised sort of house arrest, I was able to return to the weekly meetings via zoom. Old friends were there, glad to see me back on the outside. New members were there, apprehensive about the road ahead as they faced prosecution and sentencing. There is a sense of community that is simply unmatched by any other group I’m aware of. We have in common a faith in each other nurtured by the freedom to reveal our own anxieties, and to express what other friends or family might not care to hear, or might simply be unable to hear. This group has been such a source of strength for me, I hope it will continue for another 250 meetings and long beyond that!
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White Collar Week Podcast: An Evening with Our White Collar Support Group. The support group meeting on this podcast is different than most, because all of the 16 group members appearing have agreed to share their names, faces and very personal stories in an effort to reach out to individuals and families suffering in silence. All on the podcast are post-sentencing or back from prison. Watch on YouTube, Listen on Spotify, Apple Podcasts and SoundCloud, link here.
White Collar Support Group 250th Meeting Reflections: Fellow Traveler Bill Baroni, New Jersey
Bill Baroni is a member of our White Collar Support Group that meets online on Zoom on Monday evenings. We will celebrate our 250th weekly meeting on Monday, March 29, 2021, 7 pm ET, 4 pm PT; all Fellow Travelers are invited.
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Going into prison is one of the most challenging and difficult things to do in life. I don’t recommend it to anyone. But equally difficult, is coming home. The challenge of returning to life “on the outside” is daunting. From finding a place to live, or a job, or getting a bank account, or finding a new community after years away – life after incarceration can be lonely and dark.
Day after day, people who have served time in prison are isolated, lonely, feel forgotten, or without hope. Maybe their families have forgotten them; or their friends abandoned them; or their old co-workers have long forgotten them. And while the physical fences, razor wire, and guards may be gone, the mental walls of prison can remain. And the punishment handed down by a judge can pale in comparison to a lifetime of seeming isolation.
Which is why Jeff Grant and his ministry are so important. For years, Jeff has made it his mission to make sure that no one feels the isolation that can come from being a former inmate. He has brought people together from across the country to talk, listen, and be a new community. He has given hope to people to know that they are not alone, not isolated, and not without hope.
The White Collar Support Group, week after week, provides a forum for fellow former inmates to build a new network of people that have walked the same journey from prison to the next chapter in life.
For me, Jeff and the Progressive Prison Ministry is a place to meet Fellow Travelers on this road. We are so blessed to have this place to meet, talk, and know that we are not alone. Congratulations on 250!
BILL BARONI
Former New Jersey State Senator
Former Co-head of the Port Authority of New York and New Jersey
Former Federal Prisoner 67325-050
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Link here to White Collar Week Podcast Ep. 13: Everything but Bridgegate, with Guest: Bill Baroni
White Collar Week Podcast: An Evening with Our White Collar Support Group. The support group meeting on this podcast is different than most, because all of the 16 group members appearing have agreed to share their names, faces and very personal stories in an effort to reach out to individuals and families suffering in silence. All on the podcast are post-sentencing or back from prison. Watch on YouTube, Listen on Spotify, Apple Podcasts and SoundCloud, link here.
White Collar Support Group 250th Meeting Reflections: Fellow Traveler Bill Livolsi, Oklahoma
Bill Livolsi is a member of our White Collar Support Group that meets online on Zoom on Monday evenings. We will celebrate our 250th weekly meeting on Monday, March 29, 2021, 7 pm ET, 4 pm PT; all Fellow Travelers are invited.
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Many reading this know the fear of seeing their name on a federal indictment. Many also know the fear and anxiety of standing before a US magistrate judge having to answer the question “How do you plead?” I crossed these thresholds in Dec 2013 and Jan 2014. It was then that I began to understand that the world as I knew it would be forever changed. Thankfully I found Jeff Grant and his ministry soon after.
Many have shared their gratitude for Jeff and the community he has created for men and women like us. I’ve written previously, here and here, about meeting Jeff and how he has helped me countless times to navigate this journey.
The first White Collar Support Group meeting I attended was in May, 2016 (the WCSG’s 2nd meeting!). Having previously been sentenced to 24 months incarceration in April 2015, I was on deferred reporting status while my co-defendant was serving their time. I don’t remember much of the details of what we discussed that night, but I do remember feeling relieved at the openness of those in attendance and their willingness to welcome me to the community. And as I reflect back on the weeks, months and years since that first meeting I have become more at ease, more willing to share my experiences, made some wonderful friendships, and I have learned the skills to be of help those who need it.
This time last year, I was 12 months into my sentence. One morning I received an email (Federal prison camps have email systems called Corrlinks) from Jeff letting me know that in a few weeks our group would be celebrating its 200th meeting. And while we both knew that I wouldn’t be able to attend, I wasn’t sad, quite the opposite. Jeff’s email was a wonderful reminder that our community was still there for me.
I look forward to celebrating our 250th meeting with everyone on March 29, 2021. Congratulations all!
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White Collar Week Podcast: An Evening with Our White Collar Support Group. The support group meeting on this podcast is different than most, because all of the 16 group members appearing have agreed to share their names, faces and very personal stories in an effort to reach out to individuals and families suffering in silence. All on the podcast are post-sentencing or back from prison. Watch on YouTube, Listen on Spotify, Apple Podcasts and SoundCloud, link here.
White Collar Support Group 250th Meeting Reflections: Fellow Traveler Jeff Krantz, New York
Jeff Krantz is a member of our White Collar Support Group that meets online on Zoom on Monday evenings. We will celebrate our 250th weekly meeting on Monday, March 29, 2021, 7 pm ET, 4 pm PT; all Fellow Travelers are invited.
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I met Jeff 5 years after I had pleaded guilty to one count of wire fraud and two years after I cleared probation. I reached out to him as a result of having found myself heavily burdened by the implications that my conviction had placed upon me and my family. There was no aspect of my life which hadn’t been touched by my experience of being prosecuted by the government. At a point when I thought I would have put the ordeal of my conviction behind me, I found myself more confused, isolated and lost than ever.
In my initial conversation with Jeff I recounted the events leading to my conviction and described the details surrounding my present circumstances. Jeff was an astute and thoughtful listener who left space for me to get through the story in my own time. His personal experience informed our conversation with compassion, empathy and understanding.It was, perhaps, the first time I had been able to recount the events without being asked to explain my thinking or justify my actions. I breathed a little more freely knowing that the person I was speaking to had first hand knowledge of what I had been through.
Jeff suggested that I participate in the Monday night White Collar support group where I could engage with others who had become similarly embroiled in the criminal justice system and who were at various stages of processing their experiences.
The weekly meeting is populated by a diverse group whose reliable wisdom, respite and thoughtful help, informs each session. Through their listening and the open sharing of their experiences an alchemy of healing is evinced.
Though I am still early to the group, I have found it to be a supportive, welcoming environment from which I can begin to rebuild.
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White Collar Week Podcast: An Evening with Our White Collar Support Group. The support group meeting on this podcast is different than most, because all of the 16 group members appearing have agreed to share their names, faces and very personal stories in an effort to reach out to individuals and families suffering in silence. All on the podcast are post-sentencing or back from prison. Watch on YouTube, Listen on Spotify, Apple Podcasts and SoundCloud, link here.
White Collar Support Group 250th Meeting Reflections: Fellow Traveler Nom de Plume, Missouri
Nom de Plume is a member of our White Collar Support Group that meets online on Zoom on Monday evenings. We will celebrate our 250th weekly meeting on Monday, March 29, 2021, 7 pm ET, 4 pm PT; all Fellow Travelers are invited.
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